We’ve all been to weddings at which the cute little ring bearer refused to walk down the aisle. We’ve all heard stories of tuxedo clad children who have climbed all over the altar, played hide-n-seek under the bridal gown, or tried to play the church organ. If these behaviors do not mesh with your vision of your wedding day, here are a few tips to keep your ring bearer from morphing into a little ring terror.
- Choose An Older Child -Older children understand directions and expectations more easily.
- Outline Expectations-Be sure to let the child know what he is supposed to do. And don’t forget to tell his parents so that they can work with him at home.
- Wearing a tuxedo or other appropriate attire
- Walking down the aisle, either with the flower girl or just before her
- Carrying a ring pillow with the wedding rings attached (see below)
- Remaining quiet and attentive during the ceremony
- Offer the rings at the appropriate time during the ceremony
- Escorting the flower girl during the wedding recession.
- Behaving at the reception
Keep in mind that the ring bearer is really just a little boy; these considerations will go a long way toward preventing disaster.
It is not imperative that the ring bearer match the other men in the wedding party. Choose clothing that is appropriate but not uncomfortable.
Let your ring bearer choose whether he wants to walk with the flower girl or by himself. It really isn’t a big deal.
Give your ring bearer a similar pillow to take home so that he can practice.
If your ring bearer is unable to be quiet and attentive, then seat his parents near the front so that he can return to them once the bride has taken her place beside the groom.
Use surrogate rings on the ring pillow. Have the best man and maid of honor carry the real wedding bands.
Offer babysitting services or other children’s activities at the wedding reception so that you and your adult friends and family can enjoy the celebration.
Keep A Sense of Humor
Your wedding day is about so much more than the ring bearer. If your ring bearer acts up, it will be okay. Remember, that unplanned events sometimes make for the best and funniest memories for you and your friends and family to cherish for a lifetime.
Visit St. Louis Wedding Guide for more information on Ring Bearers and Flowers Girls http://stlouisweddingguide.com/flower-girls-and-ring-bearers.asp
This is a great post. We need to do some articles on children and weddings. You'd probably be the person to talk to :) - keep up the good work!
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